Sunday, June 28, 2015

To the Christian Who Celebrates Gay Marriage

My heart grieves.

I understand that not everyone will agree with what I have to say.

I pray that the Lord will give me the words to write and that I am speaking from His heart, not mine.

It was my plan to stay silent about the Supreme Court decision to legalize gay marriage, but I have something to say.

I am against gay marriage, but other than speak against it and advise against it, I will take no action to stop gay people from getting married. I feel this way because of the love that Jesus has for people. I feel this way because I know what the Bible teaches.

The Bible teaches that homosexuality is a sin. I'm not planning on getting into that, so if you don't know, feel free to ask. The Bible also teaches that divorce is a sin. If a gay couple gets married, and then become Christians, they would be in a tough spot. The Holy Spirit would convict them that homosexuality is a sin. They wouldn't want to get divorced, because that is also a sin. They might feel like they are forced to sin. Because of that case, I say it is better to not get married. But this doesn't make my heart grieve.

The Supreme Court of the United States decided that it would re-define marriage for the entire country. I do not believe that is within the jurisdiction of the Supreme Court. I would have liked to see the Supreme Court reject even considering the proposal since (as far as I can see) this doesn't have anything to do with federal law. The states have been voting for or against it, (California voted it down twice, but some judge overturned that anyway, proving that the people of this state don't really have any power,) and according to the tenth amendment, that is where the power should land. But that doesn't grieve my heart.

What grieves my heart is this: Christians, whom I know and love, are celebrating this decision on social media, saying that freedom and civil rights has won a victory.

When did we care more about what man wants than what God wants? You and I know what the Bible says! We've studied it together and nodded heads and Amen-ed in agreement, but now that popular opinion (mass media) says gay marriage is good, you throw up your hands in celebrating with the crowd. Have you prayed about this? Is this really what God wants you to do?

Now there are many of you, whom I applaud, that separate the sin from the sinner. We love the people God made, but we don't agree with everything they do. We are no better than anyone, as we are all sinners in need of a saving and sanctifying God. Amen to that.

But as I scroll through my Facebook and see the rainbowed faces of friends I know, and I read the hurtful comments on how certain Christians (sometimes coined as religious) are intolerant, I see the stone that we put down in love picked up by our own against us! Don't you see that this is a divisive tactic? It divides those who stand on God's words with those who agree with man. We are to look like the enemy, an incompetent enemy that fights itself. If we do that, Jesus says that we won't be able to stand. (Matthew 12:25)

Please, Christians, don't follow the popular opinion. Follow God's. If no one else is willing to stand with God, be the only one. Many will fall away, but I want to encourage you to pray, put on the armor of God, (Ephesians 6,) and stand.

You know me. You know I don't hate you. You know I am not angry at you and that I still love you. I just believe you're wrong and I want you and I to agree. If you still disagree, please talk to me about it. I understand that we all have different points of view and I would love to hear yours, but I am convinced (through prayer and scripture) that Jesus is leading me on this one. Are you?

Enter by the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and there are many who go in by it. Because narrow is the gate and difficult is the way which leads to life, and there are few who find it. -Matthew 7:13-14

And if it seems evil to you to serve the Lord, choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. -Joshua 24:15

“Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven. Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?’ And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!’ -Matthew 7:21-23

Therefore whoever confesses Me before men, him I will also confess before My Father who is in heaven. But whoever denies Me before men, him I will also deny before My Father who is in heaven. Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword. For I have come to ‘set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law’; and ‘a man’s enemies will be those of his own household.’ He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me. He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.-Matthew 10:32-39

If you no longer want to be my facebook friend, I understand.
If you want to call me names and yell at me, I won't do it back to you.
I just felt that I needed to share what God has put on my heart.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this issue.

beautype said...

Thanks for the thoughtful post. You write that we "know what the Bible says" regarding same-sex sexuality and how our government should treat it. I disagree. The Bible is a gigantic collection of texts. Anyone can cherry-pick sentences that suit their purposes, and then claim that the Bibles says what they think. The truth is that the Bible doesn't say one thing, it says many things. Any serious interpreter of the Bible has to grapple with its complexity and defend their choices about how to proceed in describing the "right" position to take.

Christians purport to be followers of Jesus. But most of the positions conservative Christians take, whether on abortion or war or gay marriage, are not part of the message of the Jesus of the Gospels. His message was super clear: radical non-violence; radical love and acceptance. He could not have been more clear about this.

Other parts of the Bible, such as in the Old Testament, present very different messages than this. The God of the OT condones violence, cruelty, and genocide in many instances, such as when Moses (Numbers 31:7-20) commands in Gods name that children and women should be killed.

But clearly, Jesus states that his followers should reject OT law in favor of Jesus new message of radical love. Therefore, OT law cannot be presented as evidence of what followers of Jesus should do, since he said explicitly to reject it.

Jesus also said clearly that humans are not in a position to judge. He said: DO NOT JUDGE others. So followers of Jesus should not be in the business of telling everyone they are being immoral. That is, according to Jesus, God's business alone.

We should all be supporting gay people in helping them enjoy life and flourish. We should not be judging them, or condemning them, or repressing them. We should not be denying them rights, such as the rights conferred by government through state-sanctioned marriage.

Finally, the verses typically trotted out to support bigotry against gay people do not stand up to scrutiny. This short video walks viewers through a typical rebuttal: https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=134&v=gmp6lLct-fQ